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Marriage broken irretrievably? Grant Divorce
Virag Dhulia , Bangalore: Mar 17 2009
Made Popular Mar 18 2009
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Marriage broken irretrievably? Grant Divorce

The Honorable Supreme Court has recently ruled that Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage is no ground for divorce in a ruling. Taking strong exception to the same, the Law Commission has ruled that, the same should be made a ground for divorce. As is evident both views being contradictory to each other, either one of them are beneficial to the society and citizenry at large.

Marriage is a social institution and is the first step towards the formation of family. It gives the people, the much needed support to face the adversaries of life and is a source of happiness for any individual. However, when there is a clash of expectations between individuals and hidden agendas are involved or the mutual trust between partners is broken, the marriage ceases to exist in spirit and remains only on papers.

Irretrievable breakdown of marriage has not been laid down as a ground of divorce in Hindu Marriage Act; however there have been judgments where divorce has been granted on the same basis by the Honorable Supreme Court. But very recently, as mentioned, the Honorable Supreme Court denied divorce on the same grounds saying the law does not permit it. Analysis of the contradictions led to serious revelations. The divorces granted on “Irretrievable Breakdown of marriage” were those demanded by wives while the one recently rejected was demanded by husband.

This is nothing short of discrimination against husbands by the Honorable Supreme Court and is a defeat of human rights of husbands. Be it a man or a woman, a right to peaceful and dignified life is an unchallengeable one and has to be respected at any cost. End of marriage is not the end of life and if two people, after having married to each other are not happy with each other and all means of restoring their marriage have been exhausted, one does not see any reason not to grant them divorce and allow them to move on in life.

A relationship is meant to give support to an individual in a social context and not to form a burden and all relationships are quintessentially trust based. If the trust dies, so does the relation, maintaining it on papers is another fallacy like the relationship itself? A true and mature relationship is one, where even if there is a tiff between the partners, the same can be resolved by making one phone call no matter who makes the call. If any relationship fails this One Phone Call Test, it is better called off and that too in a manner which ensures happiness and mental peace for both the partners.

The Law Commission must be lauded for being so quick in responding to the call of making “Irretrievable Breakdown of marriage” a ground for divorce and calling upon the Center to consider the amendment to Hindu Marriage Act. This call is a triumph of human rights, especially for men, whose rights are often trampled in an over enthused spirit of Women Empowerment which unfortunately is not synonymous with Male Entrapment, the way currently it is being executed.

Save Indian Family Foundation, an NGO dedicated to promote Family Harmony and Gender Equality urges the Center to consider amending the Hindu Marriage Act for including “Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage” as a ground for divorce.

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Shiv
india, India
sir, in many cases the ego blocks the one phone call test
very often people take each other for granted & mutual respect no longer exists
for reasons no one trying to find
i think whims &fancies should not make a marriage fall apart
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@Shiv

”very often people take each other for granted & mutual respect no longer exists”

Why that’s happening ?
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Shiv
india, India
marriage is a test match not odi or 20/20
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Marriage has become a football game of 90 minutes duration.A football game in which linemen and referee are just mute spectators 1!!
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It is for the parties to decide, what is more important, ego or relationship?

That is why I have said, no matter who makes the phone call.
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Feminist theories have allowed the ego to rule the roost in the relationships. And if you want to know why love and intimacy cannot be part of present age husbands and wives , I will like you to have a look at this article :

http://indowaves.instablogs.com/entry/random-thoughts-on-womens-day/
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Not at the cost of someone’s life. If the trust has been broken better that both get a divorce and move on.
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Nuya Bidness
Birmingham, United States
So it is not just divorce on demand in India?
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Nopes. Divorce is a lengthy and painful process in India, especially for men. If a man files for divorce then he must prepare to fight all kinds of false cases against him and his family under the various lop-sided women protection laws. And still men do not get divorce. This is the harsh reality of India.
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Nuya Bidness
Birmingham, United States
Do the men have to stay in the house with the woman after divorce is denied or can he move on but just not get remarried?
(Global Perspectives)
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Well he has some 7-8 false cases pending against him and if he remarries, bigamy law is always there. Its not just about stay. Men loose their self-esteem, job, reputation, a valuable life and have to fight the entire state machinery single handedly. Many men succumb to the pressure and commit suicide. Some figures of men’s suicide in India,

http://wemen.us/articles/views/25-domestic-violence-claims-156000-husbands.html
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Wonda L
Earth, Canada
Arvind
If divorce has increased by one thousand percent, don’t blame the women’s movement but blame the obsolete sex roles on which our marriages were based and people should know that an ideal wife is any woman who has an ideal husband, both working to bring each other together and not separate individual motives or ego’s
There will never be a law written to please two parties in emotional disagreements —thanks
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@Wayne,

What you are talking of is theory? Come down to India, marry an Indian girl and then you will realize the ground reality. Sitting in cozy A/C cabins of halifax Canada and talking bookish things is not going to take you anywhere. Today more than 60% of divorces are initiated by women and they get money for that as well. Money is being paid for getting married and breaking it. Why would a woman not do it? Now don’t tell me they want family and bullshit. Women are more greedy than men when it comes to money and history has been witness to it. Its the foolish men who in order to keep their woman happy, keep running helter-skelter to get money and what they get in the end is false accusations.

Have you not heard phrases, ”A diamond is a woman’s best friend” What does this portray? Why are such phrases not associated with men?

And when you get tax free alimony for breaking marriage why would a wife not break it.
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@Virag

Some women are missing the provisions.
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@Virag

Some women are misusing the provisions.
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